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What If I’m Fighting With My Spouse But Their Green Card is Pending?

What If I’m Fighting With My Spouse But Their Green Card is Pending?

What if my spouse is driving me crazy?

Hey, I’m not trying to be Dr. Phil saying, “How’s that working out for you?”

No, this is a post about marriage-based Green Card cases and what happens when the couple fights and when one member of the relationship drives the other one crazy.

We are not in the marriage advice business.

We are in the getting a Green Card case approved business.

We wanted to talk to you about some things we’ve been seeing recently with people who sponsor a foreign national for a Green Card and then there are problems in the relationship.

Now, every relationship is different.

One of the great things about working with couples, hundreds of couples, thousands of couples over the years is getting to see how different relationships really are.

It’s fair to say that no two couples are alike, no two relationships are the same, and that we’ve seen just about everything.

One of the things we’ve been seeing lately, though, are situations where the US citizen gets mad at the foreign national while the Green Card case is pending, and then does something that completely upsets the apple cart, that completely puts the case at risk and gets our foreign national clients in a bit of trouble.

Sometimes these are done in a fit of anger.

I’m sure that the US citizen feels justified, but the kinds of things we’re seeing are them calling the FBI on their foreign national spouse, writing a letter to USCIS saying they want to withdraw the case, telling a doctor that they had been assaulted by the foreign national, just to make the foreign national mad when that wasn’t even true.

So you have to be careful.

It should go without saying that if you are going to interact with USCIS or some other federal branch of the government, or if you’re going to mess with the immigration process of your partner, it might make it impossible for them to ever get an immigration benefit, depending on how much damage you do.

Obviously, USCIS can and should investigate marriage fraud.

If you send a letter or call or make any kind of claim on social media, or whatever, that your marriage isn’t real, or that your foreign national only married you to get a Green Card, that’s going to cause real problems.

That’s going to cause real problems for the case, for the couple, and for both of you.

So I’m asking you to take it easy, to be careful, and to make sure that if you’re going to send such a letter to USCIS or a government agency, that you wait until the next day.

Put it in a drawer, that’s what Ann Landers used to say in her advice column, if you’re mad, put it in a drawer or don’t hit send on your email until some time has gone by.

So I really want to caution you to not do that, to think through what you want to do.

You might want to talk to your lawyer first.

You might want to get some advice before you do it.

Don’t just do it willy-nilly and think, “Oh, well, if I make up with them, we can fix it later.”

We don’t want you to make the mistakes that we’ve been seeing lately in our consults where people have really tragically killed off a case simply because the couple got in a fight.

So you never know when things are going to work out.

When people call me and tell me that they’ve been fighting, I usually let things settle down for a day or two before we do anything like dismiss a case, unless specifically directed to.

We’re certainly not marriage counselors, and I’m not going to get involved in all the ins and outs of a fight or a relationship, but my goal always is to get the immigration case approved.

That’s what we do here at our firm, is try to get the cases approved.

And so, if there’s any threats to that, we need to talk that out and we need to do what we can to make the case as approvable as possible.

If you have questions about this, give us a call at 314 961 8200, you can email us at info@hackinglawpractice.com.

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